Sexuality and pleasure leave you feeling more disconnected from yourself.
You wonder if something is wrong with you, or if, deep down, you are irreversibly broken.
Your body has felt like an unsafe or uncomfortable place to be, where pleasure feels gross, confusing, or wrong. Maybe sex has been painful, negative, or tied to experiences that left you carrying shame. Messages about sexuality and purity have left you feeling like your body isn’t fully your own. You carry shame from past experiences, or from unwanted sexual behaviors that feel confusing or out of your control.
Whether it be from past experiences or messages you’ve received, sexuality has become another area of your life where you feel like you aren’t good enough. This leads to a deep disconnection from your body, where intimacy feels unsafe, pleasure feels gross, or being present in your own skin feels unbearable.
This kind of disconnection can feel isolating and discouraging. You long to feel safe in your body again but aren’t sure where to start.
You’ve wondered if things could ever feel different—if sex could feel safe, if your body could feel like home, if intimacy could be something life-giving instead of something you dread.
The truth is, you are not broken for feeling this way. Your body has carried these experiences the best way it knows how. Healing is possible, and therapy can offer a safe place to begin untangling the shame, fear, and hurt so you can gently reconnect with yourself and your sexuality.
EMDR Therapy could be a good fit for you.
IF YOU ARE RESONATING WITH THIS,
EMDR therapy can help you feel more at ease in your body, more free in your life, and more at peace with your past.
EMDR is especially helpful for people who feel trapped in cycles they understand but still can’t break, because the healing goes beyond talking and into the deeper places where those patterns were formed.
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EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, and is a therapy that helps your brain heal from past experiences, deep fears, or stuck beliefs about yourself that still affect you today.
EMDR uses eye movements or gentle tapping to enhance your brain’s natural ability to heal itself. This dual stimulation (eye movements or tapping while addressing difficult past experiences) helps the brain process in faster or more meaningful ways to find lasting healing.
EMDR can help you feel less emotionally charged or triggered by the past, and more grounded in the present. Over time, it helps shift the negative beliefs you may hold about yourself, like “I’m not enough” or “I’m a failure,” so you can feel more confident, calm, and whole.
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In EMDR therapy, we’ll work together to identify the experiences or memories that still feel painful or stuck, along with the negative beliefs you’ve come to hold about yourself—like “I’m a burden” or “I’m not good enough.”
Once we’ve built a strong foundation of resources and coping tools, we’ll begin reprocessing those memories using eye movements, tapping, or other types of bilateral stimulation. This helps your brain release the emotional charge and update the way the memory is stored, so it no longer feels overwhelming.
You’ll still remember what happened, but it won’t carry the same weight. And you’ll begin to see yourself in a more truthful, compassionate light.
EMDR CAN BE USED FOR A WIDE VARIETY OF CONCERNS
Concerns EMDR
can address
Trauma (from one-time events or ongoing experiences)
Childhood emotional, physical, or sexual abuse
Anxiety, panic, & phobias
Grief & loss
Negative self-beliefs like “I’m not enough” or “I’m a failure”
Chronic pain or somatic symptoms linked to emotional distress
Low self-esteem or chronic shame
Relationship wounds or breakups
Birth or medical trauma
Religious or spiritual trauma
People-pleasing, perfectionism, or feeling “not good enough”
IS EMDR A GOOD FIT FOR YOU?
EMDR is for you if:
You feel stuck in the same emotional patterns, even though you intellectually understand them
You hold onto negative beliefs about yourself, like “I’m not good enough,” “It’s all my fault,” or “I can’t make mistakes”
You have been through something overwhelming, scary, or painful that still affects you
You struggle with anxiety, guilt, or shame that feels hard to shake
You have fears or anxieties that feel intense or overwhelming, even when you know it doesn’t make sense
You want something different than talk therapy to help you make lasting changes
You don’t have to carry this alone anymore.
A safer, fuller, more whole life is possible for you.